How to Stop Caring What Others Think

I know – easier said than done. But I’m sticking with it. The more you can stop caring what others think, the more you can start to enjoy your own life.

No more second guessing if you should do something when you know you should. Less sleepless nights worrying about others’ opinions. No more living life half-heartedly according to other people’s ways.

Instead, you do things that give you joy. You make choices that fuel your fulfilment. You design the life that you want that makes you glow with the type of positive energy that rubs off on everyone around you.


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Now don’t get me wrong here. It’s ok for people to want to give their advice and tips to you – it’s a natural part of human nature. It’s ok to listen to what people have to say as some of them might genuinely be trying to help you. You might even be asking for feedback and opinions to make a more informed decision, and hence their comments are very welcome.

But it’s not ok for people to aggressively share their opinions without thinking about how it affects the person on the receiving end. It’s not ok for them to expect you to nod your head and simply say yes to make them happy. That, I think, is just silly. And that is when you really have to stop caring what others think.

Here’s why:

1. It’s your life and hence your business – not theirs.

Everyone has a right to an opinion – both you and everyone else. However, when it comes to your life, only your opinion and your view matter. You’re the only one who needs to make peace with your choices.

2. You know what’s best for you – not them.

You know yourself best. Nobody can argue with that. You know what makes you feel good, what inspires you, and what dreams you want to go after. Because of that, you know best what works best for you.

3. It’s impossible to please everybody.

Try living life according to someone else’s terms and you’ll quickly realise it’s impossible. Why? Because there are about 100 people to please and they are all asking you to do something different. Hence, there’s no point even trying to please anyone except you. If you’re happy, people around you will be happier too.

4. You’re stuck with the end result.

That’s right. If you make decisions or choices based on other people’s opinions even when they don’t feel right to you, you’re stuck with the end result yet nobody else is. And then, you have nobody else to blame but yourself. Lesson learned: don’t listen to others. Listen to your inner guidance instead.

5. You, your life, and your choices are not responsible for other people’s happiness.

You are not responsible for anyone’s happiness but your own. You are not responsible for making choices that other people want you to make in order to fuel their happiness. The only person’s happiness you’re responsible for is your own.

Yes, be kind and generous. Be diplomatic and non-judgemental. Do look at the big picture. Don’t become overly selfish. And, finally, do consider how your choices affect your loved ones. Most importantly, remember that your loved ones want you to make the choices that make you happy.

Don’t be fooled by the idea that what job you take, where you live, or what lifestyle you choose will hurt someone else. They won’t. On the other hand, if you don’t stop caring what other people think, and you keep living life according to other people’s terms, you will be the one that’s hurting like hell.

Something that has really helped me to make peace with this is this beautiful meditation of words which I adapted from Soul Consciousness Coach Jessica Reid’s tips to me. Whenever you feel like you’re drowning in other people’s opinions, meditate on this whilst focusing on the people whose opinions are affecting you:

I send you love and light. I wish you can find your own alignment and happiness on your own terms. I love you but I’m doing what’s right for me.

That’s my take on my journey of manoeuvring opinions. I hope it helps you, at least a little bit, to stop caring what others think.

If you liked this post, please do share it, like it, tweet it, all of it – I really appreciate it :)

With that, I wish you good luck in your adventures and until next time!

With love, light, and happiness,

x Susanna

P.S. If you’re looking for more in-depth help for quieting the outside noise and connecting to your inner voice, get coaching with me. I’ve got more tools and tips to really make this stick.


  • Dev says:

    Hi, amazing read… I’d like to share some of my thoughts on this article. I believe that everybody has a different mindset. They all think differently because their minds are groomed differently so one can not just simple please everyone. You only have to put yourself first because you are the most important person.

  • Asad says:

    Someone’s saying: it is no good to compare yourself to someone. Our creator has blessed every body with special gifts. Nature, working style, exposure, feelings, judgement every aspect of all beings is different. One cannot satisfy others in any way. Perhaps life is a binary game either yes or no; either you live life for yourself or for others. And it’s better for one to live for one’s own self.

    • I totally agree Asad – especially because when you live for one’s own self you are better equipped to then also help others. But before you can help others you have to help yourself.

  • Tammy says:

    Hi. This is my biggest worry of all………worrying about what people think. I will think someone is mad or angry just by a look that I ‘think’ is not good (no smile, not saying hi, etc), then later see that everything is fine. I worry the most if I think I’ve made myself look dumb in some way. I will dwell for days on that, thinking over and over “why” or “what if I’d done or said this”. I will play over and over the other people’s expressions and words of what they are probably talking about to others…..basically laughing or talking about me. I can never just blow it off. I know some things are so silly, but I still can’t shake the thought of me “possibly” looking ridiculous. As you can tell, I’m a huge worry-wart. It drives me crazy. Of course, I’m writing this because something just happened yesterday at a business where I know “of” the workers, and they know “of” me. Nothing was said about this incident, but I am assuming it was silly/ridiculous of course, and I’d like things to have been different……….

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