Coping with Missing Your Family and Friends

Who knew 2020 would be the year when you’d be missing your family and friends the most? Who knew that you’d even be banned from seeing them? To this day, I have to pinch myself to check if I am awake and not in some never-ending nightmare. I can confirm I am awake and it is all real.

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COVID-driven lockdowns, travel bans, closed borders, and strong recommendations from medical professionals against seeing your elderly family members are all the current normal. Life as we know it is very different from what it used to be to many of us. Yet, I know there are some positives too.

Many have had the chance to slow down for the first time in a very long time. Others have taken this as an opportunity to check-in with themselves and remind them of what matters most. Some have learned new skills, taken up new hobbies, made healthy lifestyle changes, and even changed careers. Finally, many have had more time than ever to savour their homes and family lives, though that family time has often been limited to the immediate family. That has meant missing a lot of people who aren’t in your household.

Parents, kids, grandparents, grandkids, siblings, in-laws, extended families – it has been more challenging than ever to stay connected. The same goes for your friends, soulsisters, brothers from other mothers, colleagues, and many others. I’m not going to lie, it has been hard, and will continue to be so for a while.

But we can try to make it even a teeny weeny bit easier with these reminders:

1. You missing someone is a good sign.

It means that you care about them and that they matter to you. It means that you love them in one way or another. Even though missing them is hard, it is a good sign. It means you have people in your life that you love and that is one of the most miraculous things in life.

2. Talk to the people that you miss.

Thankfully, technology has never been as effective as today in helping you stay connected. From normal phone calls to video calls to instant messaging to social media and so much more, the opportunities to connect are endless. They might not be the same as face-to-face interaction but they are better than no interaction. You could even go old school and write a letter or send a postcard. The surprise of it alone will bring your loved recipient so much joy.

3. Hang out with the people you miss online.

Do happy hour calls with cocktails. Do games night through group calls. Cook together via video calls. Quizzes, philosophical questions, family games – they are all possible to do online with a little effort and planning. They are a lot more fun than you think and you might even learn new things about each other.

4. Make plans to do something with them in the future.

Even though you might not know when that moment in the future will come, you can still plan for it and start to anticipate it in excitement. Write a list of activities you want to do with your loved ones when this is all over. Talk to them about it. Make some preliminary plans. Look forward to them.

5. Remind yourself that this too shall pass.

We are living in uncertain times and you might not know when you’ll be able to see some of your family and friends. But, at some point, you will. Just like with anything, this too shall pass. We might not yet know when or how, but it will. Because every beginning and middle is followed by an end.

Sending you extra doses of love and light today. Stay safe my friend.

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