Last week I had the pleasure of attending the second Festival of Doers in London. Last year was the first time it ran and I was so fortunate to be one of the keynote speakers, delivering my ‘Screw Finding Your Passion‘ talk based on my first book. This year I was running 15-minute Doers Clinics on ‘One Habit You Want to Build or Kill’ – and it was such a blast! But, most importantly, the whole event was pure magic.
From the moment I walked through the doors to the moment I walked out, I was mesmerised. I felt more empowered than ever to be surrounded by 200 beautiful souls who were all equally eager to make the world a better place. These women all came in with fierce determination to learn, to be inspired, and to be a true doer.
Every interaction lifted me higher and every message I heard from the other speakers and workshop facilitators brought more light into my soul. I was on a high for days after it and I felt like I had been born again.
Specifically, there were three messages from the keynote speakers that really struck a chord with me. I’m sharing them with you now just in case they help you light up too.
This kickass Purpose Girl was born to be a performer. Her talk was full of goosebump giving stories and she took the whole audience on a rollercoaster ride of emotions as she shared her learnings from her path. One of the most powerful ones for me was this:
Write down what you regret and what you’re jealous of. Then, go and do those things or get the things you’re jealous of.
Bam! That’s a chief Doer right there. When you want something, you have got to go after it. If you regret something you didn’t do, go and do it now. If you regret something you did, go and undo it to your best ability. Last but not least, if there is something you’re jealous of in other people, go and bloody do it or get it!
Get off your high horse and stop complaining about things you don’t have or didn’t do. You are in charge of your life so go live it exactly how you want to. Don’t expect things to fall into your lap but go after them. Be a doer. Go do the things you’re meant to do.
This soft-spoken, petite, interaction designer is not only award-winning but also England’s Strongest Woman! She competes in weightlifting alongside running her business and this immediately struck a chord with me with my equestrian dressage competition career running alongside my Happyologist work too. The message that really hit home from her was this:
“Speak the truth even if your voice shakes.”
Especially if your voice shakes. The more it shakes, the more important it is for you to share your truth. You owe it to yourself – and to everyone around you – to share it. If you don’t speak your truth, you are holding yourself, your happiness, and your fulfilment back. You are stopping yourself from being the person you are meant to be.
Speak the truth because the world wants to hear it. Speak it because every bit of it matters. Speaking it will help you to connect to yourself, to the people around you, and to the world in a more fulfilling way. Don’t hold back. Be honest, be truthful, be you.
This doer is a fighter in more ways than one. Hazel was a competitive kickboxer and ABA boxer with two world titles under her belt. She is also a cognitive hypnotherapist who helps you to tackle the mind monsters that are holding you back. To me, it was one simple phrase from her talk that I really needed to hear:
“You are more than enough.”
Not you are not enough. Not even that you are enough. But that you are more than enough. It made me wonder if men wonder about these things as much as women do. It seems like we women are all tackling with self-doubt whilst trying to be everything for everyone. Yet, nothing we do seems to be enough for ourselves and we seem to just want to keep doing more. This stops now.
Don’t be a doer because you feel like you have to do one thing after another to be worthy. Don’t be a doer because you’re trying to prove something to yourself or to someone else. Instead, be a doer for the joy of doing. Learn to enjoy the things you do from the bottom of your heart. Do the things that make your soul come alive. See every day as an amazing adventure for you to enjoy, one step at a time. Enjoy the journey and enjoy yourself. Because you are way more than enough.
Last but not least, I want to give a shoutout to the amazing Miisa Mink who is the founder and organiser of Festival of Doers. She also founded Driven Woman which I have been a part of for 18 months – and I have loved it all the way through.
So this is my message from me to you. Go and become one of the doers. Don’t hold back – and go after what you want with your whole being. Listen to your soul’s calling and fulfill it.
With that, I wish you good luck on your journey – and I hope you enjoy every step of the way!
Sending you light, love & joy,