Get free tips to create a happy, fulfilling life.

* indicates required

When and How to Say No [infograph]

Lately things have been heating up in my life – at work, with my horse, and with life in general. I have been so busy getting on with things I’ve had little time to just chill, mainly because I temporarily forgot how to say no. I’ve automatically filled my calendar with all kinds of commitments on top of my work and riding because I got so used to being busy. My energy is still great and I’m being uber productive, but I know I can’t keep going at this pace forever. So it’s time to remind myself of how – and when – to say no.

It’s especially hard to say no when you feel your mission in life is to make the world a happier place, and you feel like when you say no you’re preventing someone’s happiness. Obviously, if I think about this rationally, that’s not exactly how it works. Everyone is in charge of their own happiness and it’s their responsibility to welcome it into their life. Everything I do say yes to is to try and help them to welcome it into their lives in a more effective way. And, just like everyone else, I only have 24 hours in a day and I have to choose how to spend every single minute of my day.

That’s when I decided to create a flow chart to help myself, and you, to say no to the right things. Because we can only say yes to so many things in a day, and we need to be wise about what those things are.



I’ve even printed this flow chart out myself into my inspiration folder so that I can look back on it whenever I need a reminder of when to say no. I recommend you do the same!

Now I’d love to hear from you. How do you decide when and how to say no? Tell me in the comments below as I’d love to hear your insights on this topic!

If you enjoyed this post, please share it, like it, tweet it – all of it! I really appreciate it :) Also make sure you are signed-up to my Happyologist newsletter to be the first to find out about my latest posts, newsletter only offers and happiness tips I don’t share on my blog.

With that, I wish you good luck in your adventures & until next time!

With love, light & happiness,

Susanna :)

Spread happiness:


  • Isabelle says:

    Hi Susanna, I love your flowchart. Congratulations!

  • Ramesh Shishu, Ph.D. says:

    Saying “NO” is an art: both when to and how to say “NO”. You have made it easier “When to say NO”
    I like it.

  • Hi Susanna,
    Great flow chart! Looking forward to hear you in Holland January 12th at School of Life. Would be great to meet you there. Love what you do, because I work in this area as well. Let’s make the working world lighter & brighter!

    • So glad you enjoyed it Juul!
      I’m very much looking forward to my trip to Amsterdam next month – can’t wait!
      Let’s definitely make the whole world lighter and brighter! :D

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.