Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail (and How to Succeed)
It’s the start of the year and you’re excited about the year ahead. New Year, New You. New New Year’s resolutions. You’re already starting to doubt whether you’re going to get through January with them. And there’s still 11 months to go after that. I think the real question you have to ask yourself is if these New Year’s Resolutions are right for you – and why you even set them in the first place. These types of resolutions often fail for there reasons:
- They are unrealistic to achieve as you haven’t ‘practiced’ for them (especially if you’re making a massive change from 2014 to 2015 in something).
- You haven’t prepared yourself to overcome the moments of self-doubt and tiredness which will arise sometimes.
- You don’t know the why behind your resolutions but instead you’ve been influenced by the people around or by the idea of something you should do.
- You’ve phrased it negatively (e.g. “I’m going to not eat candy anymore”) so all you’re thinking about is what you shouldn’t do. Try “I’m going to snack healthy when watching TV” or something that makes it specific what you are going to do. Replace your bad habit with new good one.
- Using guilt or fear as motivation to do them.
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Now you might be wondering what’s the key to successful New Year’s resolutions. And this is when I say scrap the resolutions and replace them with goals. Here’s what I mean:
- Set yourself goals rather than New Year’s resolutions. When you set a goal you are working towards something. You can work backwards from where you want to get to and create an action plan of little steps you need to take to get there. This is a much more realistic way of creating the change you want because you’re slowly building yourself up to reach it.
- Set no more than 3-5 goals. The key is to focus and prioritise. You want to enjoy your year so don’t put too much on your plate or you’ll get into overwhelm. Then everything everywhere will go pants up.
- Ask yourself, “What needs to happen this year for this year to be the absolute best year yet?” This will set you on the right path for growth as you’ll think about how to make this year better than the last. It will also remind you of what’s important to you.
- “Anything that doesn’t help you work towards your goal is a distraction”. Live by this rule throughout the year. If in doubt of doing something, ask yourself, “Will this get me closer to my goals?”. If the answer is no, think about whether you really want to do this.
- Start a goal group that you can share monthly updates with. Together you can inspire and encourage each other, and keep each other going on those bumpy patches. There’s nothing as motivating as being surrounded by people who believe in you. The monthly updates will also help you to reflect on what’s gone well, what you need to work on and how you can do even better next month.
- Enjoy the journey! The most fun thing about working towards something is the journey itself. That’s when you’re being challenged, you’re growing and you’re having the most fun. Make sure you remember that.
With that I want to wish you a Very Happy New Year – and wishing you a 2015 full of love, laughter and joy! :)
If you’re looking for extra help and support to set your goals and start working towards them in a positive, proactive way, I can help.
I have just released my new coaching programs so if you’d like for me to become your life coach take a look at how I could help.
I also wanted to warn that the website is going through some updates this January so please be patient if it is down at any point in time – though my developer and I will do our best to avoid this at all costs.
You will also see a new look for my newsletter soon which this year will be coming out bi-weekly on Wednesdays.
This is just the start of the exciting news so make sure you’re signed up to my newsletter to hear what else is coming up! ;)
With that I wish you good luck in your adventures!