I recently read Susan Jeffers’ Feel the fear and do it anyway which is a personal development book aimed at helping you overcome your fears to reach your potential. It’s a powerful book with some interesting exercises yet a very easy, quick read.
This may not be obviously linked to happiness or positive psychology but in essence it is. Imagine being able to follow your passion or travel the world or go talk to that cute guy/girl in your gym class because you’re no longer afraid of the “What if“. That would be pretty amazing, wouldn’t it?
Every organism has one and only one central need in life:
to fulfil its own potential.
Happiness and success is really the outcome of using our own powers, skills and actions to our fullest. And by power I mean, “the ability to get yourself to do what you want to do.” For some this may sound silly and super straightforward, and for others not so much. It also depends what is it that you’re actually trying to do.
Fear basically takes control away from us and can put us into places of pain, helplessness, depression and paralysis. On the other side of the scale is power, choice, excitement and action (I think that’s where we want to be!). The good news is you have just as much control creating fear than getting rid of it. And the more you overcome your fear battles, the lighter and freer you will feel and the more forward you will be able to progress.
This book is filled with exercises on overcoming your fear – from positive affirmations to accepting the denial truths and many more. It certainly made a huge difference in me as it encouraged me to take the small steps I needed to take to get further where I wanted to go. In 6 months I moved houses, started intensive dressage training, entered a higher competition class, completed a coaching accreditation and launched Happyologist!
Lastly, one of my favourite excerpts from the book:
Determine what you want in life and act on it.
Stop waiting for someone to give it to you.