Change is messy. Change is unpredictable. Change can get dirty. But sometimes it’s simply inevitable.
I’m in a time of my life where change is happening all around me and deep within me. Some of it I’ve resisted, some of it I’ve been waiting for, and some of it felt like second nature. That’s natural. Change comes in all kinds of shapes and forms and you need to learn to embrace it in any way it comes. I know, easier said than done, right?
The easiest change happening in my life is becoming a Mrs. In less than two months I will say “I do” to the love of my life and I can’t wait. The more tricky change is the evolution of my work as the Happyologist. It’s something that’s been brewing for a long time but I haven’t yet had the courage to fully go ahead with. Well, the time has come. The change is here.
Last week, when I was having a session with my coach on this, she pointed out how I’m in that spring phase of a flower bud. I’m full of insights and almost ready to open up. I’m ready for rebirth and to show myself to the world. But it’s still scary. There’s still some frosty nights that make me shiver and tighten up, and then there are the warm, sunny days that feel like an invitation for me to show up. I can feel it, it’s close. Really, it’s already here.
I’m ready to let go of the things that are no longer meant for me. One of these things is my one-to-one coaching. It was a long, difficult process to get to this decision as coaching is one of the things I have built my brand on. But, I knew it was time to evolve. I knew it was time to take the next step. I will still continue to use my coaching skills in the talks I do, the books I write and the online courses I develop.
Which brings me to the next point: the things my heart is yearning to do. As somebody who teaches others to live a life that’s true to them, I have to live a life true to me. I want to do the things that fill me with excitement and the things that make me come alive. Right now, that is writing my next book, delivering keynote talks, and developing new online courses. Those are the things I love and those are the things that bring my best self forward.
Finally, I’m also evolving where my insights come from. I will continue to base some of my tips and practices in positive psychology. I will also start introducing new insights into my work from other areas of my expertise – such as my cross-cultural background, animal love, fascination with philosophy and the learning experiences I’ve personally had.
In short, I’m no longer The Happyologist, a positive psychology practitioner and happiness life coach. Instead, I’m a philosopher, speaker and writer. I’m here to share my insights on how you can live your most fulfilling life by living a life that’s true to you. I love helping you to connect to your own inner truth and teaching you to let it guide you like a compass into the path you’re meant to take. I want to help you to quiet down the outside noise so that you can better hear your inner voice.
That’s who I am today – and I’m proud to share that with you. Everything that I’ve ever learned will continue to serve me on this day and the days that follow. I hope you’re just as intrigued as I am on this new path that I’m on, and I invite you to join me on it. If you, just like me, are going through change or want to feel better equipped to deal with it when it does come your way, these are the insights that have helped me to stay grounded and sane. I hope they do the same for you.
1. You don’t have to have it all figured out.
Especially in the midst of change. You’re trying to figure out what to drop, what to keep, and where you’re going. There is no quick fix to any of that and the key is learning to remain calm in that uncertainty. Play with your options, test things out and see what happens.
2. Listen to your heart.
This one keeps coming up again and again (and if you’ve been following me for some time, you know I talk about it a lot!). Our society is designed in a way that our mind is held up on a pedestal – and our heart is somewhere there in the background. You’re continuously rewarded for rational thinking and you’re forever asked to think logically. Not once in my education or corporate career was I asked to listen to my heart or gut. Yet that is what holds half (if not more!) of the insights you have. Don’t ignore them. Learn to tune into them. Especially when you’re going through change.
3. Take one step at a time.
Take the tiniest steps if the big ones are scaring you. Each step will give you more feedback on whether it feels right and hence you can then adjust your next step based on that. If you feel like you’re not hearing the feedback from within, take another step. Eventually, your body, mind and soul will start to wake up and tell you whether this feels right or whether you need to adjust your path.
4. Surround yourself with cheerleaders.
Surround yourself with people who encourage you and support you no matter what you decide to do. Avoid the ones who want to drown you in advice and make you overwhelmed with the amount of choice you have. Sure, you can still ask for insights and tips from the most trusted people in your life but remember that you know best what’s best for you.
5. You’ve got this.
Whatever happens and wherever you go, you can do it. Everything in your life has prepared you for exactly this moment. Everything in your life has made you into the person you are today so that you can deal with this change. It might not go as planned and it might feel uncomfortable and hard. It might also go better than you ever imagined it would and you could simply fly through it. Realistically, it will probably be a mix of those two scenarios. Either way, you will come out of it stronger, braver and even more beautiful.
Sending you love and light,
P.S. If you want to grab one of the last one-on-one coaching sessions I offer, simply purchase your coaching before end of March and have the session before end of April. From May 1st onwards, I will no longer offer one-on-one coaching.